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Table of Contents 3 Letter from the Editor 4 Swinging After the Loss of Your Partner 5 Fun Factoids About Wife Swapping 7 Collared Conversation “Our Newest Regular Article Series” 10 Amaretto Peach Smoothie A Drinik to Entertain Friends 11 Why I Like to be Spanked 12 Does Fitness make You a Better Lover 13 Appetizer for Your Cookout/PartyLetter from the Editor Dear Readers, Welcome to the May issue of ‘Fifty Shades of Pleasure Digital Publication,’ your monthly source for all things sensual and erotic. We are thrilled to bring you a tantalizing array of arti- cles, recipes, and personal stories designed to ignite your passions and expand your horizons. In this issue, we are excited to introduce our new monthly feature, ‘Collard Conversation.’ This thought-provoking article explores the complexities of consent, communication, and re- spect in the realm of BDSM. Prepare to be titillated by our feature article, ‘Why I Like to be Spanked.’ This candid and in- timate piece delves into the psychological and physical benefits of spanking, offering a fresh perspective on this often-misunderstood practice. Our anonymous author shares their person- al experiences and insights, empowering you to discover and embrace your own erotic prefer- ences. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg! This issue is packed with a variety of articles, including: * ‘Fun Factoids about Wife Swapping’ * ‘Swinging After the Loss of Your Partner’ * ‘Does Fitness Make You a Better Lover’ Whether you are a seasoned connoisseur of erotic literature or a curious newcomer, ‘Fifty Shades of Pleasure Digital Publication’ has something for everyone. Join us each month for a journey into the realm of pleasure, passion, and self-discovery. Erotically Yours, Donna LynnThe loss of a spouse is a devastating and life-changing event that no one can truly prepare for. The grief and loneliness that comes with being a widow or widower can feel overwhelming, and many struggle to find a sense of purpose and happiness after such a significant loss. However, for some, the journey of grief leads them to discover a new way of life - swinging. Swinging, also known as partner or lifestyle swapping, is a practice where couples engage in consensual sexual activ- ities with other couples or individuals. While this may seem shocking to some, for widows and widowers, it can provide a much-needed escape from the pain and emptiness of losing their partner. One of the main reasons why widows and widowers turn to swinging is to fill the void left by their deceased spouse. The loss of physical intimacy and emotional connection can leave a deep void in one’s life, and swinging offers a way to fulfill those needs again. It allows them to experience the excite- ment and pleasure of being intimate with someone new, with- out feeling guilty or disloyal to their late partner. For many, this can be a healing and liberating experience, as it reminds them that they are still desirable and capable of experiencing plea- sure after loss. Additionally, swinging provides widows and widowers with a sense of community and belonging. The swinging community is often open-minded and accepting, making it an ideal space for those who may feel isolated or judged by society for their lifestyle choices. It offers a sense of belonging and under- standing, as many members have also experienced loss and understand the struggles of navigating life after the death of a spouse. Furthermore, swinging can also be a way for widows and wid- owers to explore their sexuality and try new things. When in a long-term relationship, couples often fall into a routine and may not have had the opportunity to explore their sexual de- sires fully. Swinging allows them to break free from societal expectations and explore their sexuality without any judgment. It can be a liberating and empowering experience for those who may have felt sexually repressed in their previous rela- tionship. Moreover, swinging can also be a way for widows and widow- ers to cope with their grief. Engaging in pleasurable activities and connecting with others can provide a temporary escape from the pain and sadness of losing a loved one. It allows them to focus on the present moment and enjoy themselves, giving them a break from the constant thoughts and re- minders of their loss. However, it is essential to note that swinging is not a solution or a replacement for grief. It is simply a coping mechanism that can provide temporary relief and en- joyment. It is crucial for widows and widowers to seek professional help and support to process their grief and emotions fully. In conclusion, swinging may seem like a taboo and un- conventional way of life, but for some widows and wid- owers, it provides a new sense of purpose, pleasure, and community. It allows them to heal and move for- ward while honoring the memory of their late spouse. Ultimately, everyone grieves and copes differently, and for some, swinging may be the unexpected and fulfilling path they choose to take. Here are five fun factoids about wife swapping: 1. Wife swapping has been practiced for centuries. The earliest known evidence of wife swapping dates back to ancient Greece, where it was a common practice among the upper classes. 2. Wife swapping is not as uncommon as you might think. It is estimated that up to 10% of couples engage in wife swapping at some point in their relationship. 3. Wife swapping can be a great way to spice up your sex life. By introducing new partners into the mix, you can explore new sexual possibilities and keep your relationship fresh. 4. Wife swapping can also be a great way to strengthen your relationship. By sharing your sexual experiences with another couple, you can build trust and in- timacy. 5. Wife swapping is not for everyone. It is important to make sure that you and your partner are both comfortable with the idea of wife swapping before you de- cide to try it.Welcome to our column: Collared Conversation. We are Hope and Robert; psychologists, thera- pists, swingers, friends, lovers and occasionally partners in Power Exchange. P writes: My partner and I (married for nine years, no kids) have been swinging for two years and love it. Our sex life has never been better. I’ve been reading some books that have consensual BDSM as a theme and find myself fantasizing about doing some of this stuff with my partner. Maybe be- ing tied up or even spanked (gently, please). How do I broach this to my partner without scaring the daylights out of them? HOPE RESPONDS Speaking as a therapist, the simplest approach is usually the best. As swingers, you most likely have excellent communication already. If you don’t, you should work on this first. How have you discussed other edgy topics with your partner? Start with what you already know that you both enjoy and with a twinkle in your eye suggest another topping for your ice cream sundae. Per- haps, watching a swingers movie with light BDSM would wet their whistle and open the door for communication. Or when your partner sees your excitement while reading erotic literature and asks what you are reading, read aloud a sexy passage about being spanked. Of course, the more you ooh and ahhh, the more intrigued they may become. Don’t forget to reward them for their interest. ROBERT CONTINUES Hope and I see this in a very similar way. First, let me caution you that not every fantasy needs to acted upon. I got into Power Exchange by being convinced by a lover years ago. Essentially, I was in the Collared Conversation This article is for entertainment and does not in any way constitute psychological therapy .same role as your partner. I needed to be convinced because I did not see my- self as a Dom, despite what my friend thought she saw. Believe me, it took some (very pleasurable) convincing. We did just what Hope has suggested. My friend introduced me to the idea by giv- ing me a set of books by Anne Rice…the Beauty Series. It showed me that there were multiple versions of BDSM; re- straint, impact, exhibitionism, obedience and many others. By talking about it, we were able to safely and SLOWLY explore how we wanted to proceed. And proceed we did. Swinging was not on the table. Here I am years later, a Dom with greater skill and insight. Hope and I do some of these elements together, but not all. I don’t ever do age play, breath restraint or any form of wound- ing. Hard stop. Hope and I do impact, restraint and cock worship. Our spouses encourage it and sometimes watch. Since you are swingers, you might consider showing your partner how much you enjoy this style of play with a Dominant swing partner while they watch. It might be a gentler introduction without the complications of a committed relationship/history. Find the right Dom. Anyone who acts angry is dangerous. Always have a Safe Word. HOPE CONTINUES On a personal note, my first experience with spanking was at a large hotel swingers party. Being a relatively new swinger with some reservations about jumping in the deep end, I enjoyed observ- ing the multitude of activities. Walking into the BDSM room I saw a long line of women (and a few men) waiting to experience spanking.. I watched as people were bound to the table and in a short time, with the smack of a paddle or flogger, were in their happy place. When I talked to my hus- band, he was a bit hesitant, but certainly interested in my pleasure. Next time at the party, I waited in line, positioned myself on the table with my bare ass in a grand display, and took my turn. Whoa! The initial sting gradually and imperceptibly turned into exquisite pleasure and I could not wait to experience it again. And yes, my husband and I had outstanding sex that evening.By the time I met Robert, I knew what I wanted and knew he was a good match for my preferences. Remember, the sub is actually the one in charge. WE SUMMARIZE You should try it! Use books or movies to open up the topic with your partner. Take it slow and have fun. We certainly do. Maybe your first experience is best with an experienced Dom at a party with your partner watching. Your partner may quickly want to learn so they can also pleasure you in this way. Or, if it is not their thing, then you may enjoy being spanked by another lover. That is how the two of us met. Good luck!Next >